Will Hamm, "Where There's a Will, There's a Way!" (Hamm Homes)

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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
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Are you talking about fighting over an inheritance, challenging a will, trying to get the goods?

Several have answered "Greed".   

    Expanding upon that, the Bible refers to such a person as COVETOUS.  In many cases, they have always had their eye on the money, or the house, or the personal property.   Now that the dead person is out of the way, they will sue anyone, or walk over anyone, to acquire that which they have coveted.

Feb 18, 2023 09:39 AM
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GREED!

Feb 18, 2023 09:32 AM
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Because they no longer have to be nice and lie because the person's alive?

Feb 18, 2023 08:46 AM
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Michael Jacobs
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In my opinion one only needs to follow the money. . .   In everyday life and too often, in death.

Feb 18, 2023 01:32 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Estate Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
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One word ...

 

GREED 

 

A lot of old buried (no pun) family stuff rises to the surface causing all kinds of negative emotions.

It is truly very sad yet not uncommon.

Feb 18, 2023 09:19 AM
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Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker
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A sense of entitlement...

Feb 18, 2023 12:38 PM
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Candice A. Donofrio
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Usually selfishness and greed. 

Feb 18, 2023 10:58 AM
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Lyn Sims
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I don't know but it happened to my own family & my fathers sisters too.

The person that passed away kept the family in control - once they're gone the knives come out.

Feb 18, 2023 10:05 AM
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Alan May
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Many people don't know how to handle death.

Feb 18, 2023 08:20 AM
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Roy Kelley
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A common issue for many families. And, some of the family divisions are very long term.

Feb 18, 2023 12:43 PM
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Buzz Mackintosh
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The true personalities come out when the patriarchs of the family are gone.

Feb 18, 2023 04:02 PM
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John Pusa
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Hello Will Hamm I have seen happened in two occasions within my extended relatives sue each others for the inheritance.

Feb 18, 2023 01:55 PM
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Diana Dahlberg
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Bottom line is greed, jealousy, selfishness and envy.  But I believe Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate said it the way I would have.  

Feb 18, 2023 01:33 PM
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Shayne Stone
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Hate to say it, but I believe it comes down to Greed... 

Feb 18, 2023 08:22 AM
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Diana Zaccaro Broker Associate
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Guilt and greed are what I have seen. Guilt for the family members who did not keep in touch with or spent time with the deceased for whatever reason and now realize that person is gone and can't cope with taking accountability for their actions or lack of. Greed because I have seen how avaricious some people can be and it usually stems partly from guilt...they seem to think that by acquiring as much money, personal property, etc. from that person that it will somehow assuage their guilt. 

Feb 18, 2023 12:58 PM
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Brian England
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I have seen it both ways.  I have seen horrible people that have passed away and they talk about them as if they were a saint, haha.

Feb 19, 2023 04:34 AM
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Don Baker
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money is the root of all evil.

Feb 18, 2023 12:18 PM
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It's not something I've ever seen personally or experienced so I can't tell you.

Feb 18, 2023 12:15 PM
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What has made a home in the soul and doesn't belong there has to be outed before the exit. THINK: The soul is surrendered to God. Get as much "taint" out of it as you can. He will do the rest (grace & mercy). Regardless of how what is inside someone and why, focus on it coming and staying out and in order to do that, the many must see it first. Prepare to show the exit respect

Feb 18, 2023 09:49 AM
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Self-entitlement may play a part as well as greed. My aunt passed away and then my uncle within 60 days of one another. My cousins were grieving something awful, except for the oldest brother. Instead, he hired an attorney to get what he considered was owed to him. Horrible situation!

Feb 19, 2023 08:02 AM
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Wayne Martin
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Like politics, greed trumps compassion and ethics!

Feb 19, 2023 04:12 AM
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John Juarez
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We are all aware that money and the aspect of making easy money does strange things to some people.

Feb 18, 2023 05:08 PM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
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Most of the time, that family member is only concerned about the inheritance. It's a sad state of affairs, for sure, Will.

Feb 19, 2023 05:09 PM
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Finally acknowledging the truth?

Feb 19, 2023 03:30 AM
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Olga Simoncelli
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I don't understand the comment, Will.

Feb 18, 2023 10:43 AM
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Doug Dawes
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It's people being people Will

Feb 19, 2023 08:22 PM
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Karen Climer
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Because it is an experience that typically involves a wide range of intense emotions.  People don't have a lot of experience dealing with emotions of that intensity.  Your parents only die twice in your life.  Your spouse only dies once (maybe twice) in your life.  You only have a small number of siblings, so you can only experience that a few times.

It's just a very intense situation that we don't have a lot of experience dealing with.  Also, there is nothing more permanent that we deal with.

Feb 19, 2023 01:53 PM
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Lynnea Miller
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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate has a great response.  As the executor of my parents' estate, I made sure early on that all their affairs were in order so that their desires concerning their property (including all the "stuff") was in writing and signed by them so that my siblings couldn't argue about it.  Unfortunately, I have one challenging sister and I knew being on top of this was essential to avoid issues after my mother died last December.  It worked, but I doubt I will ever see that sister again after she gets paid her final installment of my mother's assets.

Feb 20, 2023 11:25 AM
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Kimo Jarrett
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Selfishness.

Feb 19, 2023 10:08 PM
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Feb 21, 2023 06:21 AM
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Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES
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MONEY:  In its presence we're coarse, in its absence we're vulgar. 

Feb 22, 2023 06:45 AM
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Many reasons I am sure, entitlement, greed, sadness, perceived slights, etc.

Feb 21, 2023 07:09 PM
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Carla Freund
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Often it is greed. Sometimes it is the anxiety or grief one feels or a persons feels about what another did or should do. There are so many things. 

Feb 21, 2023 10:22 AM
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Sharon Altier
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Perhaps guilt plays a part?  Unresolved family issues?  Many families do not discuss the issue on the table and instead part ways after the death.  Sad, but seems to happen over and over.....

Feb 21, 2023 08:10 AM
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Jeff Pearl
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Many times it's family members that have been sitting around thinking they're going to inherit something, then find out the parents did a reverse mortgage, or realize 5 or more other family members were all thinking they they were going to inherit the same real estate or money. I know families that put into there will that the family home is to be sold, and any money left over after estate is settled is to be donated to their local fire house, or church, etc, and kids got nothing.

Feb 21, 2023 05:02 AM
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I agree that greed and selfishness play a part. Also many folks seek to grasp after the person who is gone by grabbing the "stuff"-even when it has no personal meaning. 

Feb 27, 2023 12:47 PM
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Tony Lewis
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I only see this when greed takes over and fighting over the inheritance is more important than the loss.  Our family has never had this problem.

Feb 26, 2023 08:46 AM
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Jeff Eannarino
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This happens more often than you think.  One way to avoid family feuds is to remove family members from decisions.   Making sure properties are correctly titled while the owners are alive and, that an estate plan is in place can alleviate squabbles and keep family away from the courts and a probate judge.  

Feb 22, 2023 12:58 PM
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