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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Are you asking about the person who asked about referral companies? I read that thread of comments and saw nothing untoward. The only comment I raised my eyebrows about was the one by the person who posted the question... I found her response to be not overly civil and don't appreciate  someone who asks a question to tell us which answers are acceptable and how we should answer.

From my persective, if you ask a question and some answers are not appropos, ignore those. Don't tell people who answered that their answers didn't suit you.

I have now stepped off my soapbox... thank you for listening.

Mar 12, 2019 10:06 AM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

I read that thread, and I did not respond. The only thing that was rude was her insistence that people not respond unless they gave her EXACTLY what she wanted.


There are a lot of smart people here and they have experience, designations and systems in place.

Why not wrap one's mind around the possibility that someone may know something others don't?

Ungracious. Kind of like those you said don't appreciate 'thanks for sharing' on their blog posts! ūüėČ

BTW, this is a blog post. Write it up and I'll be glad to comment with something of value.

Until then, thanks for sharing! LMAO

Mar 12, 2019 10:08 AM
Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR¬ģ, Broker

Once again I think I missed something.

Mar 12, 2019 10:37 AM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

easy come, easy go....when one train leaves there's another one right behind it....

let's get rid of the "working girls" before they get too comfortable here!!!

Mar 12, 2019 10:26 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA

If you can't stand the heat, don't stand so close to the fire.

I have seen comments on this forum that I have thought nonconstructive. I ignored them.

I am sure some of my comments have been ignored.

Mar 12, 2019 10:23 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Comment deleted.  I had nothing nice to say.

Mar 12, 2019 11:47 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Bob - although I couldn't identify the person from your question, the replies revealed the member.  I think my response was appropriate for the question. If it offended her, I apologize but my response may be the same the next time it is asked if I decide to respond. 

Mar 12, 2019 11:32 AM
Susie Kay
Ultra Real Estate Dallas Fort Worth - Plano, TX
North Dallas Specialist

I think as a rule of thumb, if you don't have anything nice to say than don't say it.

Mar 12, 2019 05:18 PM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

Thanks for sharing.

Mar 12, 2019 12:20 PM
Harry Norman, REALTORS¬ģ - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Not sure what just happened, but It's happened to all of us at one point or another.  Pick your self up and keep on going.

Mar 12, 2019 11:05 AM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate Agent Retired

Bob .... leave me alone. Leave my thoughts alone also. I intend to keep putting down my thoughts here without any type of criticism. 1st amendment rules dude!

Mar 12, 2019 04:18 PM
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

I think I missed something here ... but your point was made and I agree with these responses. For me, personally, if I don't agree with something I just move on.  It's EZPZ

Mar 12, 2019 12:59 PM
Dario Ferreira
Attleboro, MA
Internet Marketing

I totally agree.

I don't think most people around here realize that in most internet forums, which the Q&A kind of is, non-answers are frown upon and are not expected.

So, when new members get 80% of non-answers, they get a little surprised and may say something.

Mar 12, 2019 10:07 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

I've been selling real estate today and am just now getting back to AR!

I think I know which member you're referring to - I made my comment and then read the others. I honestly thought her comment was the only rude comment on the thread - at least up to the point I read the question. 

I will say that if I had read comments first, I probably wouldn't have bothered with an answer - she seemed like she already knew what she wanted us to say and I gave her my honest answer. I didn't think I was rude - at least I hope I wasn't...despite her rudeness.

Mar 12, 2019 07:23 PM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

Did not follow that thread... it's unfortunate to see angry or inappropriate comments.

Mar 12, 2019 12:13 PM
Chuck Willman
Utah Homes - Alpine, UT
Utah Homes

I missed this one. Thanks for the reminder Bob. Altough I don't know the specifics of this case I have often wonderend about the case of the Utah students. (Did i just sense a collective groan?) :-)

I joined AR in Arizona more than a decade ago when it was free. I moved to Utah a few years ago. If my first action on AR had been as a student who was requested by his instructor to ask a question I would have probably quickly learned that this would not be a place to spend my money.

I know this one is a hot potato. The Blue Utah students have contributed many questions that can easily look redundant and spammy. I doubt any of them know what they're in for until they see the responses.

A while back I did a Q&A asking if any of these students found a reason to stay. So far I've found none.

It's easy to be sarcastic and dismissive- especially when we feel the need to police the place. It's a good reminder Bob. Civility is a virtue. Though we may see many cases in which the other party does not deserve a civil response, I still think it's worth thinking before we type and hit the post button.

Mar 13, 2019 11:19 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Not only that Bob Crane, there are a few members who will attack another member when politely differing in opinion on their posts - plus not everyone is meant to agree when questions are posted. They can be very entertaining at times!


We all offer something unique to this forum and I appreciate it when someone stops to make a comment, at least they showed up - cannot control drive-bys either! Lately, I have not been commenting as much as I used to on member posts. 


We can all do better, be better as professionals.

Mar 13, 2019 10:46 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ¬ģ e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

No, no, no...I didn't leave Bob Crane I'm still here. LOL

Mar 12, 2019 07:16 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

I must have missed something. 

Mar 12, 2019 01:58 PM
Raj Taj
RE/MAX - Lake Bluff, IL
Drive By Blessings!

"I hear thunder and I see lightning, it must be acidrain."

Mar 12, 2019 12:02 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

I must have missed this drama as I not been active here for a few days. 

Mar 13, 2019 07:49 AM
Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Wow, I missed all the fun!  I'm going to have to find that thread now.

Mar 13, 2019 07:41 AM
Greg Cremia
Shore Realty of the Outer Banks - Nags Head, NC

If the point seekers, especially those who have free accounts, keep chasing away new "Paying" members it will lead to the eventual downfall of the site. Without new income this place is doomed.

Mar 13, 2019 05:34 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

What did I miss, story of my life missed out again, darn it love to ge on the inside looking out vs now looking on the  outside wondering and looking in....Endre

Mar 12, 2019 11:01 PM
Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

I missed the post, thank you for the reminder to be kinder to others Bob.

Mar 12, 2019 05:40 PM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good advice.

Mar 12, 2019 01:58 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


First of all the question was vague, and if she really wanted the answer, she would have clarified.  She already knew the answer and was looking for something she did not clearly ask.   Then she took her toys and went home.  This is not the behavior of someone, I would refer to anyone.  

Mar 12, 2019 01:28 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

My time is worth something Bob Crane and if anonymous people are going to ask stupid questions then I'm at least going to enjoy the time I wasted and let them know they are idiots.

Mar 12, 2019 01:12 PM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR¬ģ - Oklahoma Investment Properties

When there is a question without a name or what looks like a fictious name I click on the profile and so often I see a spammer.

Mar 12, 2019 11:43 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Here is a man that believes in a standard of practice. Support this worthiness

Mar 12, 2019 11:01 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

maybe they should consider it a gift of stopping by.  Oh wait, it's okay with you for drive by commenters to be rude.

Mar 14, 2019 10:30 PM
Erika Rae Albert, Austin Real Estate Expert
E*Rae Realty - Austin, TX
Exceeding Expectations in Every Transaction

I guess I'm not spending enough time in the Q&A forum to know what's going on...I always live by the motto of say something nice or say nothing at all.  That being said, I am a straight-shooter.

Mar 14, 2019 02:40 PM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

I really need to stop by more often..... lost on me!  Maybe I retired too soon....

Mar 14, 2019 02:32 AM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

It is a "Wonderful World' where one can ask a question and also dictate the responses to confirm they can do what they were going to do anyway.

It has been my impression no one asks a question on AR that they do not already have their answer and action in place.

Those whose time is sooooo precious that "thanks for asking' is offensive to them are too fragile for this business.

Mar 13, 2019 05:42 AM
Peter Mohylsky. Broker -BRIX REALTY
Miramar Beach, Florida - Santa Rosa Beach, FL

My thoughts exactly, love these words and hope more folks read them.

Mar 13, 2019 05:10 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Totally missed all this.

Mar 12, 2019 08:23 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

I did not respond to the question but must say found her tone annoying. If you don’t have thick skin, real estate is not for you

Mar 12, 2019 02:21 PM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

People are often impatient. 

Mar 12, 2019 11:48 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Bob, I agree, I see some people that should not be saying nasty in comments.


Mar 14, 2019 01:30 PM
Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

Sad. I haven't participated in Q&A in a while... -K

Mar 13, 2019 10:15 PM
Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

Oh ya, I know which one you are talking about.... 

Mar 13, 2019 08:06 AM
Diana Zaccaro Broker Associate
Tropical Beachside brokered by eXp - Cocoa Beach, FL
"The Accidental Blogger" Cocoa Beach, Florida

I did not see that post or the comments...guess I need to spend more time in Q&A.

Mar 12, 2019 10:56 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR¬ģ, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I guess I don’t come to Q&A enough...

Mar 12, 2019 10:22 PM
Sally Lawrence
Advantage Real Estate - Tehachapi, CA
Broker, CHS, e-Pro, SFR, REALTOR¬ģ

Well, I completely missed the original post and the comments, (now deleted) and yet feel compelled to comment anyway.  

From these comments to Bob, it appears that a number of people thought the OP was rude in tone and not really interested in getting answers because she already knew what the "answer" was.  My personal opinion is that when I perceive a tone of rudeness, I simply don't engage, especially in a public forum.

Since the dawn of internet forums, I've subscribed to the theory that if I would be unhappy seeing my comment on the front page of my local newspaper, it was the wrong thing to put in any venue that others could see.

I believe a little more tolerance and politeness can go a long way in our society in general (not just our profession) and if we can't manage that.... as my mother always said, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."

Mar 27, 2019 08:26 AM
Jay McHugh
SendOutCards-Appreciation Marketing Expert - Acton, MA
YOUR SendOutCard Mentor

Well said.....kindess and patience is needed more on this well as some thick skin if you one receives a response in disagreeement.... Learning and eductating are a couple of the great assets of this platform I enjoy....

Mar 26, 2019 04:11 AM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

as usual I am a day late and a dollar short...

and  I am glad I missed it.

Sometimes I dont comment because if I cant say anything nice I just wont say anything at all

Mar 18, 2019 01:23 AM
Evelina Tsigelnitskaya
SIB Realty - Sunny Isles Beach, FL 305-931-6931

Agree with you.

Sep 21, 2019 09:05 AM
Valeria Mola
SIB Realty - Miami, Sunny Isles Beach - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
305-607-0709 SIB Realty Condos for Sale and Rent


Jul 03, 2019 10:25 AM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor¬ģ ‚ÄĘ GRI ‚ÄĘ HAFA ‚ÄĘ PSC Calabasas CA

Honestly.... the quality of posts and questions need some control. Too much spam. 

Mar 31, 2019 11:48 PM
Chris Harrison
Ogden, UT
Industry Observer

I appreciate your perspective. Thank you.

Mar 27, 2019 11:24 AM
Krista Jenkins, REALTOR¬ģ
klm Real Estate - Lubbock, TX
Residential sales and retail & office leasing

I have been active on Active Rain for three days now, and I understand your reaction. It appears that some people can't help themselves. Good on you for speaking up! 

Mar 17, 2019 04:00 PM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

This hits home in a way I had not expected

Mar 15, 2019 06:58 PM