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Rainmaker
4,583,790
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Let's see how that "insult"strategy works for you.    

Jan 14, 2019 02:41 PM
Rainmaker
5,115,878
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I've seen these statistics before... they are not new. And by the way, you have succeeded in ruffling my feathers... I am an adult with four grown grandchildren and at this stage of my life don't care to be berated in a public forum such as this one. Certainly, an interesting mentoring approach on your part.

PS I am not an amateur! You've never met me.... how would you know if I'm an amateur or a top professional?

And was there a question here? If there was, did I answer it correctly?

Jan 14, 2019 02:39 PM
Rainmaker
7,869,927
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is a points driven section. There is no requirement to read the questions.

Jan 14, 2019 02:54 PM
Ambassador
3,590,291
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Well my friend, there is a book written a long time ago by a wise man - How To Win Friends and Influence People......a very good read. Pick up a copy ASAP.

Jan 14, 2019 03:46 PM
Rainmaker
1,057,404
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

I'm not sure head size has anything to do with it.

Jan 14, 2019 02:41 PM
Rainer
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Raj Taj
RE/MAX - Lake Bluff, IL
Drive By Blessings!

"The answer my friend is blowing in the wind" BD

Jan 14, 2019 02:34 PM
Rainer
117,135
Christine Kankowski North SD and Temecula
House Match Inc - Poway, CA
Excellent Sales and Property Management

The answer to your question is Green.  I didn't read the question, but I know that is the answer. 

 

Jan 14, 2019 03:26 PM
Rainmaker
532,904
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Is there a grammar lesson in here somewhere?  I read this post several times, even out loud and it makes little to no sense. If the poster is a mentor, I would hate to have him as mine.  But I love reading all of the comments by the professionals!

Jan 14, 2019 08:04 PM
Rainmaker
5,583,328
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

I guess you got your butt kicked plus 10 points....  

hmmmm.... I got 15 for sharing that information with you.... 

Jan 14, 2019 05:42 PM
Rainmaker
5,772,918
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Jay,

Wow, this is SO PATHETIC  that you would  treat anyonewith insults.  No one here is an amateur.  I would say your style is Amateurish.  Our best friend is a renown coach for the Fortune 500 firms.  He would NEVER APPROACH anyone this way, even the lowliest person on the totem pole.  Every living being deserves RESPECT!   Apparently no one taught you that.  That is so sad!   A

Jan 14, 2019 03:35 PM
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

People have told me that I have a big head but it's actually thick hair that makes it appear that way. #bolobound

Now, what were you saying?

Jan 14, 2019 03:13 PM
Rainmaker
554,600
Francine Viola
Coldwell Banker Evergreen Olympic Realty, Olympia WA - Olympia, WA
REALTOR®, In Tune with your Real Estate Needs

Well, this is fun.  I need to get 15 points so I'll play.  Many times the question is open-ended or a little vague and therefore the answer may be less precise to your liking. Garbage in, garbage out.  

Jan 14, 2019 04:04 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

It is you.

Jan 14, 2019 02:55 PM
Rainmaker
2,222,275
Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTAcondos.com
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Wow, nice way to make friends....  Good luck to you.

Jan 14, 2019 06:26 PM
Rainmaker
716,891
Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
Premier Real Estate Service in Central Oregon

I do have a big head - way bigger than most women.  Does that make me less or more likely to read the question?

Jan 14, 2019 04:46 PM
Rainmaker
1,325,749
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

I missed the question in your post so I cannot answer.

Jan 14, 2019 04:15 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Sometimes a sideways answer is the most appropriate answer.

Jan 14, 2019 02:34 PM
Rainmaker
1,208,441
Peter Mohylsky, Destin BeachPro
PMI. Destin - Miramar Beach, FL
Call me at 850-517-7098

I like NLP but I am not sure I understand that there was a question here?  

Jan 14, 2019 02:25 PM
Rainer
376,887
Libby Cousins
Extraordinary Processing - Spokane, WA
Contract Mortgage Processor, licensed in WA

WOW! If you goal was to get attention, you achieved it. Unfortunately, it isn't positive. First impressions are important so you may want to rethink your approach. 

Jan 14, 2019 11:48 PM
Rainmaker
1,506,773
Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Sometimes a question can lead to a different line of thought from what the asker could have thought of.  Some, like Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 are really deep thinkers and often see things in a different level than we do.

Jan 14, 2019 06:52 PM
Rainmaker
1,231,853
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Snowman Bring it on!

Jan 14, 2019 04:28 PM
Rainmaker
511,064
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011
HomeSmart - Scottsdale, AZ
Real Estate Made Easy

I don't know the answer. But I do know that I will get points for not answering it.

Jan 14, 2019 03:01 PM
Rainmaker
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I didn't even see the question... your BIG head got in the way!

Jan 15, 2019 07:00 AM
Rainmaker
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Maria Sapio
Keller Williams of Central PA - Carlisle, PA
Real Estate Agent- Carlisle, PA. Mariasapio.com

I have the utmost respect for my colleagues and I find that most here upon the AR forum take a tremendous amount of time out of their busy schedules to offer great responses after they have READ the questions posed in the Q/A section.

Jan 15, 2019 06:12 AM
Rainmaker
1,389,105
Joyce Marsh
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Joyce Marsh Homes

I find your tone insulting and fail to find an actual question here. 

Jan 15, 2019 05:59 AM
Rainmaker
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

gee .... thanks for your opinion. When did you participate so effectively in this group?

You didn't ask a question. There is a better forum to look for people to berate, that being FB.

 

Jan 15, 2019 04:57 AM
Rainmaker
1,390,113
Wayne Zuhl
Remax First Realty II - Cranford, NJ
The Last Name You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

I enjoy the flow of conversation that is started with a question. If we asked questions that have only 1 correct answer, this section would be dead.

Jan 15, 2019 03:34 AM
Rainmaker
3,627,272
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Morning Jay.

Well if it was a storm you wanted to start, congratulations you sure did.  

Jan 15, 2019 02:28 AM
Rainmaker
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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Evolution - 447 Boston Street, Suite #5, Topsfield, MA - Topsfield, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Hi Jay,

Thanks for asking. I think the KC Chiefs are going to lose.

Jan 15, 2019 10:11 AM
Rainmaker
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Greg Large
ERA Real Solutions - Grove City, OH
A Tradition of Trust

I do not consider myself an "amateur" but I fail to see a connection between "Big Head" and reading the question. Drive by comments for points have been here from the beginning.  Noticeably missing from the thread of this "question?" is any comment stating good question, thanks for asking. Don't get the type of response you're looking for? Ignore it and move on.  Reminds me of a time when one my kids was in preschool and some kids were not pleased with the type of cookie they were given at snack time and the teacher told them "You get what you get, and don't throw a fit".   Hope your day gets better.

Jan 15, 2019 09:40 AM
Ambassador
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

While there may be a 'big head' or two here, I think it's you, Jay.

Jan 15, 2019 05:05 AM
Rainmaker
5,244,268
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

As for given an answer to a question not asked, look only to our elected officials. As for contacts required, you are spot on!

Jan 15, 2019 03:56 AM
Rainmaker
547,637
Steven Nickens
Hawaii Life Real Estate Brokers - Wailea, HI
R(S)GRI ABR, Maui Real Estate Hawaii

You might want to rephrase your question.  It's a little bit longer than needed. 

Jan 15, 2019 02:15 AM
Rainmaker
716,529
Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

The complaints dept is down the hall to your right.... 👉

What was your question again?

Oh ya, it's you.

Shut down, on fire, burn spiraling on the way down... and not so sadly, crash.

Jan 15, 2019 09:01 AM
Rainmaker
921,504
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

"I am an NLP certified mentor.." Jay, I know what that means and also know you should know better.

Like you I too have observed that actually reading a question is optional on the AR Q&A section. If you pause for a moment, you can see this creates space for having a LOT of fun. So instead of ranting, have a little fun.

I like to ask a question in the title and reverse it in the text. By doing so, the skimmer and the readers are easily identified. You can identify the authors to pay attention to and who to ignore.

As a matter of reality, observing how agents respond to carefully crafted questions and selective words should prove indispensable for one who is a certified NLP mentor.

After all, we all know you are here to sell your specialty to established agents.  You may not be aware seasoned agents are ALL skeptical. but we do show how to get past the guard dogs. I would have thought you already knew but now I must question that.

What your experience on Active Rain will be is exactly what YOU make it. Please hit the restart and play again. Active Rain participants either have a short memory or are extremely forgiving.

Don't misinterpret what is happening here. No one is remarking on your the marketing image in your qeuestion. This is not a 'big head' thing. What is happening is the reaction to the perception the family has being attacked by one completely unqualified to do so.  We all endure criticism from our family, but from a stranger, possibly a fat head, an NLP certified mentor,  who has earned nothing from the family, I'm not so inclined to 'turn the other cheek." However, my memory retention is about 8.3174936285 nano seconds.

The next move is yours.

Jan 15, 2019 05:55 AM
Rainmaker
853,612
Brenda Mayette
Miranda Real Estate Group, Inc. - Glenville, NY
Getting results w/ knowledge & know-how!

It depends. 

Jan 15, 2019 05:08 AM
Rainmaker
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I love Nina’s answer. I agree withher.

Jan 15, 2019 03:14 AM
Rainer
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Dan Capra
LAER Realty Partners - Lowell, MA
Listing/Buyer Agent

I could not agree more...are we here to accumulate points and blow smoke to our prospects saying we are the top blogging agent in our respective areas OR are we here to REALLY help one another with best practices? I have also witnessed this from past posts. It is important to call out the wrong from right..otherwise we encourage the pussycats to continue bad practices.

Jan 14, 2019 03:27 PM
Rainmaker
1,770,269
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

What do the sales statistics have to do with your rant?

Jan 15, 2019 11:21 AM
Rainmaker
1,242,204
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

That is why we have two eyes, two ears and only born with one BIG MOUTH.

Jan 15, 2019 08:39 AM
Rainer
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David M. Dwares
Title Professionals Corp. - Fort Lauderdale, FL
Title guy with a broker license

Maybe not the most artful way to make a point (no pun intended), but the sentiment that some people answer questions just for the points isn't wrong.  Those non responsive answers don't add to the discussion and can often distract from a good back and forth interaction in the answer section.

Jan 15, 2019 06:49 AM
Rainmaker
1,712,876
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

It's called jazz. It may be My Funny Valentine but everyone interprets it differently. 

Jan 15, 2019 06:01 AM
Rainmaker
3,416,038
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Here is the thing, read the question, read the answers already left. then add your answer but i also like to see why you answered that way on a question that has an opinion built in. Such as answering 8 is in stone. But asking do like ice cream? Then i want to know what ice cream you like and why? As far as your chart, i love when other agents dont follow up in my area as it means more clients for me. 

Jan 15, 2019 05:50 AM
Rainmaker
4,800,132
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

So, I read this and re-read this, and I'm still looking for the question?

Jan 15, 2019 05:37 AM
Rainmaker
4,905,762
Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

No

Jan 15, 2019 04:19 AM
Rainmaker
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Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

If I don't want to answer the actual question, I just scroll on by. I don't worry about how others answer or share their opinions.

Jan 15, 2019 10:32 AM
Rainmaker
2,785,306
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

The mystery of what is inside a person remains to be seen. We can only inquire to know and experience what comes out. Whats there is...there

Jan 15, 2019 07:32 AM
Rainer
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Jay McHugh
SendOutCards-Appreciation Marketing Expert - Acton, MA
YOUR SendOutCard Mentor

 

 

 

Wow after reviewing the comments I can see how many amateurs and childish agents we have in the group... boy ...not lost for words....... I recently headed to Grant Cardone on Super Bowl Sunday weekend...gave up my Super Bowl tickets to sit with the Super Bowl stars of business .....sat in the front row...paid $15,000 and did not see anyone of you there.....

while many of you were at 

Inman or NAR..... drinking the cool aid of average content . ....  I hope I ruffled a few feathers, pissed off many of you, and I will build my empire with those that have thick skin... YOU are patehtic if you cannot handle the truth......10X it for those that want to succeed... Success is my Duty nothing else matters....and yes I waited this long to respond to find the Professionals from the amateurs....  

Feb 13, 2019 05:18 PM
Rainmaker
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

These are NOT my stats.   I blog on this site for future business, and this is the way to do it.

Jan 18, 2019 06:50 AM
Rainmaker
3,986,308
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Well that makes me want to come back here

Jan 17, 2019 06:17 PM
Rainmaker
4,966,102
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

That is wrong on some people but I see it to often here.

Jan 16, 2019 07:13 PM
Ambassador
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Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

NLP ( Neuro Lingustic Programing,  I assume) is not about this type of communication. At least not in my humble opinion. I guess the take away for me is this, " What are you trying to accomplish with this question? " Are you interested in pointing out how our inner communication and our auto-pilot thinking gets us in trouble? Are you trying to raise the bar of professionalism in our industry? Really, what is your goal and intent? I'm serious, would love to understand. Your motive baffles me and I'm curious. For the record, I always try to set my intent before speaking, and check in with my knowledge and experiences, self-awareness, and values and ethics. Deliberate and mindful thinking and communication is a discipline and skill set - it rarely begins with belittling other people. I would hope you would use your valuable communication skills ( NPL Certified Mentor) to foster dialog and put people at ease if you really want to have a discussion. My 2 cents.

By the way, if busy people sometime miss the point, or interject a comment that doesn't appear relevant is it really worth shaming them? What does that say about our ability to be compassionate and forgiving people. Finally, for those folks who use this platform solely as a points- getting forum, or to bully others, I choose to ignore them and move on. Law of attraction and all...

Jan 16, 2019 09:56 AM
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