Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092)

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Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

My brother just passed away last month without a will.  He didn't own anything and any survivor benefits will automatically go to our Mother.

However, it would have been nice to fully know what his wishes were.  He died prior to us having a discussion about organ donation, burial or cremation? Could his body be donated to science??  We were able to donate his corneas which eased my mind somewhat as he was such a voracious reader.

I have been flying by the seat of my pants these past few weeks but his ashes keep staring back at me as I've no clue what he'd have wanted me to do with them! 

I just donated all of his clothes to The Salvation Army. I'm trying to give his life some meaning after the fact. 

A will, if for no other reason, will take the guess work out of final decisions for your family.  If you want to be an organ donor, please tell your immediate next of kin because by the time a will is read, it will be too late!

May 11, 2016 11:07 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Always good to have a will, Roger, even if it's a simple one-page will (like my mother's was naming me executor). Keeps the government out of your family affairs if you die intestate. You can even purchase a fill-in-the-blank type will package at a Staples and do it yourself.

May 11, 2016 10:21 PM
Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

You would be surprised what heirs will fight over


May 11, 2016 10:47 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

who gets the grain free pizza in the refrigerator?????? (raising my hand!!)

May 11, 2016 10:20 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Who will get and take care of the cat?  


May 11, 2016 10:18 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

You need a simple will to avoid the creation of a burden for someone to handle your estate. 

Do not worry. I will use the insurance proceeds for a good cause.

May 11, 2016 11:12 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

I'll take the old lamp

May 11, 2016 11:10 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Hi Roger,

Susan Emo responded with a voice of reason! Please tare her advice:).

May 12, 2016 10:18 AM
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Well, what to you want us to do with your body? Wait, never mind, don't answer that. Please.

May 12, 2016 09:08 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Well that makes life a little less complicated, a good thing, right?

May 12, 2016 08:28 AM
Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Roger, I can see your point.  If you have anyone who would take care of your remains or if you have any special wishes, then a will is important.

May 12, 2016 04:18 AM
Sharon Altier
Coldwell Banker Realty - Elmhurst, IL
Luxury Property Specialist, CSC, SFR

It helps the family in the grieving process by understanding the lost one's wishes.  It is like a last communication with them and helps avoid any internal conflict with remaining family members.  Emotions run high and everyone has a different opinion.  Saves conflict and enables family to mourn with some peace of mind in knowing they are honoring the lost one's wishes.  It also enables family to know if any financial arrangements may cover expense of burial, cremation, etc...and handle the process easier.

May 12, 2016 03:40 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


I think that Susan Emo makes a lot of good points here.  Funny enough we were discussing that with someone over dinner on Tuesday night...A

May 12, 2016 01:08 AM
Donald Urschalitz
Lubeck Realty Group - Jupiter, FL
P.A. Realtor ABR RSPS North Palm Beach County

Just do it, keep the courts out of your business.

May 12, 2016 12:38 AM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

If you have no heirs, and depending on the laws of your state, maybe you don't. In AZ, 'no one dies intestate'. It behooves us to have a will so the state can't put our heirs in a position of powerlessness.

May 11, 2016 11:42 PM
Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida

To add insult to injury the correct phrase is that they're not worth diddly squat. Can I have your computer?

May 11, 2016 11:03 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Never let the government make choices for you!

May 11, 2016 10:54 PM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

I think it is really for the people you leave behind. 

May 11, 2016 10:23 PM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

They do have online will kits that are very inexpensive. I think the biggest things are what you want your final wishes to be. Your final resting place or a living will in case you cant make decisions for yourself. 

May 11, 2016 10:15 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

Is this for Mickey? I didn't have much to do for my mother's "estate" when she died but it made it handy that someone was named executor so we could terminate the lease on her place, dispose of the furniture - probably no one would care that I did it - but I am an only child and you have siblings.  If this is about Mickey is it clear who will act for her? 

May 11, 2016 10:01 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

Bravo Susan Emo for saying this. The family will likely be distraught and under stress and knowing the wishes of the deceased is like leaving a gift to them. Now if one doesn't care or wants to create some havoc then not leaving a will is one way to do it.

May 12, 2016 01:18 PM
Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

There is something you have I could use Roger. Make a will and give it all to me.

May 12, 2016 12:58 PM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

A will can be done with info from the computer...let people know what you are thinking

May 12, 2016 12:58 PM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Where there's a will, there's a way.  (Or, so they tell me.)

May 12, 2016 04:22 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Roger,  I could not say it any better than Susan Emo did.  You can hand-write your will ... it need not be created by an attorney.  That said, check the laws in your state. CA ... holographic or hand-written wills are honored by the courts. Also, in CA if assets are under a certain amount, probate is not required. An estate can be administered under the small estates act.  That is how I managed my mom's after she passed last year. The power of attorney I had expired when she did. 

May 12, 2016 03:55 AM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

You might be surprised what treasures you might own and it's good to be clear about who it is you want to have them.

May 12, 2016 02:12 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Lots of DIY kind of things in wills...If you have a savings account...something speial you wanted to give a niee or nephew to rememebr uou by....always, always always in writing.

May 12, 2016 01:05 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Who gets all your Treasures from A/R?

May 12, 2016 12:45 AM
Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

The law is quite clear Roger D. Mucci - to bequeath Dewars you must have a will!  And where there's a will there's a way!

May 11, 2016 11:38 PM
Susan Laxson CRS
Palm Properties - La Quinta, CA
Realtor in San Diego, CA & Naples, FL

If nothing else then to leave a "legacy" to family members or your friends. Even if it just a token, it shows that you cared about them and wanted them to have something to remember you by. You might be surprised how the simplest of things will have meaning for them.

May 11, 2016 10:37 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Because whatever you DO have (furniture? clothing? leftover Dewars? car?) might go to the government if you have no family for it to go to. 

May 11, 2016 10:24 PM
Raymond E. Camp
Ontario, NY

For an attorney to make a few bucks; but there might be some details that should be in one.

May 11, 2016 10:12 PM
Anthony Acosta -
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Great question for an attorney Roger D. Mucci 

May 11, 2016 10:03 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

you never know, you could win the lottery tomorrow

May 15, 2016 07:09 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Roger, Susan does have some great points!   It does make things easier for the family.

May 14, 2016 12:38 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Susan Emo has spoken as the voice of reason and (recent) experience.  My parents died without a will and it was not good.  All the decisions and us two munchkins fell to his brother.  I wish they would have left instructions on what their wishes were.   

Oh... and, Roger, would you donate your sense of humor to me.  I need a new angle.  

May 13, 2016 12:08 AM
Dennis Swartz
Full Circle Property Management - Columbus, OH
MBA, GRI...experience counts!

Because without a will even the pot can't be disposed of without court intervention!! Trust me on this one.

May 12, 2016 07:38 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Roger. It matter to those that you leave behind.

May 12, 2016 07:02 PM
Melissa Jackson REALTOR
Trinity Premier Properties - Azle, TX
Helping You Make The Right Move

Susan Emo said it well.  At least have something written for your family. All this material stuff?  I could care less, these kids are going to do whatever they want. What did her brother want?  

He died prior to us having a discussion about organ donation, burial or cremation?

This made me stop & think.. Peace of mind for myself and acknowledging my family knows what I wished.  At least to name 1 person in charge.  No, I don't have a will either..

May 12, 2016 01:49 PM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

Roger D. Mucci   I have to echo Susan Emo's response as I have had to deal with the aftermath of a loved one passing with no will.  

May 12, 2016 01:44 PM