Ginger Harper, Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County! (Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team)

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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


I have an urgent appointment on planet Earth...that should stop the blah, blah machinery...LOL A

May 20, 2015 01:33 PM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Politely say, "I must go.  I have another appointment." 

May 21, 2015 12:28 AM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Ginger. Love the question, I would politely let them know there is something else I need to do and thank them for spending a few minutes.

May 20, 2015 07:02 PM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ


If one understands the outcome of this practice, seeking a POLITE way to end this practice of abusing the bystander, should not be your concern.

Being POLITE is what encourages GOSSIP. If it is GOSSIP have no part of it.

Ask the speaker, "How will the conversation benefit the person about who you are speaking?" If it does not benefit, it IS GOSSIP.

'Oh, I just thought you would like to know." is the common excuse. It is still gossip.

Now, if one accepts that no benefit exists in engaging or encouraging gossip, and the residual long lasting harm is unavoidable, make your position clear. 

Yep, that would not only take courage, and commitment. But your life would benefit from greater clarity and untainted appreciation of others.

Gossiping is shameful, so shame the gossiper.

May 20, 2015 10:03 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

If I'm on the phone I tell them I have a client call coming in. If I'm there in person, I look at my watch and excuse myself telling them I need to run to an appointment.

May 20, 2015 09:10 PM
Raoul Loustaunau
EXP REALTY - Phoenix, AZ

Ginger i am strait to the point nice chatting but i need to go have a great day; Ginger have a great evening

May 20, 2015 03:38 PM
Sharon Altier
Coldwell Banker Realty - Elmhurst, IL
Luxury Property Specialist, CSC, SFR

Ginger, it has been great to visit, but I really need to get back to business.  Have a wonderful day!

May 20, 2015 01:39 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I have another appointment in ten, nice chatting, but I gotta run now.

May 20, 2015 01:28 PM
John Novak
Keller Williams Realty The Marketplace - Las Vegas, NV
Henderson, Las Vegas and Summerlin Real Estate

I glance at the time and tell them I have another appointment in 20-30 minutes. No details, just a quick "Gotta go," and then don't look back!

May 20, 2015 01:20 PM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

Today I had a situation where someone was really bending my ear. I won't go into details. This was an employing broker and she needed to talk. When I thought we had discussed it enough...I gave her a hug and told her she did the right thing. Each situation will be different. But no matter what...I try to be nice about it. 

May 20, 2015 01:20 PM
Tina Comstock
La Rosa Realty - Jacksonville, FL

I am a proponent of this especially because it is not right to talk about people. Once a person, starts to talk about someone nicely, I try to respond positively and then quickly shift gears and talk about something else. Once a negative statement is spoken about others, I keep quiet and excuse myself. If folks try to engage in lengthy discussion and I feel that I have other things to do, I excuse myself and let them know I have items on my plate needing much attention. I make up for neglecting to engage with them sometimes, by finding time to be available occassionally. 

May 20, 2015 12:42 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I just walk away, this business is crazy, and usually do not get placed in this situation. 

May 20, 2015 12:36 PM
Cindy Davis
SD Home Source Realty - San Diego, CA

"I have work to do!" 

May 21, 2015 12:44 AM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

I have the answer to that:  "Get To Work"... and if that doesn't sink in, "don't let the door hit you in the butt" will.....

May 21, 2015 12:17 AM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

I don't.  I am a sounding board and it is important they get their views and frustration off of their chest.  I listen and do not judge them.  

May 20, 2015 09:56 PM
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

I do not believe that there is a tactful way. Folks like that drain your time. Time is valuable.

May 20, 2015 06:15 PM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Ginger Harper politely! I give them couple of minutes and ask them if there is anything important that they want to talk - as I have a flight to catch.....(or an appointment or lunch date or anything.....)

May 20, 2015 01:29 PM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

I am point blank about it...

May 20, 2015 01:14 PM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Just say it.

Dec 21, 2018 06:24 AM
Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Walk. Away.

Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year!

Dec 25, 2017 04:49 AM
Jillian La Rocque
St Thomas, VI

"I have really been working hard on budgeting my time properly so I can get more done. Please help me out by asking me to shut up and leave after 2 minutes since I need to be doing something else by then."  After almost 1 minute "Wow, time flies. Got to run. I will let you know how well being intentional about time management works for me!" (You should be at least 5 feat away from the agent by now.)

May 26, 2015 03:33 AM
Chris and Dick Dovorany
Homes for Sale in Naples, Bonita Springs and Estero, Florida - Naples, FL
Broker/Associate at Premiere Plus Realty

Oh my, is it 11:05 already, bye.

May 21, 2015 08:19 AM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Yes, I will walk away from anything that creates a negative culture, and for this reason I do not miss being in an office with other REALTORS®.

May 21, 2015 06:31 AM
Jim Paulson
Progressive Realty (Boise Idaho) - Boise, ID

I had a previous broker that had a habit of ignoring the people in his office after a bit hoping they would get the hint.  One night, he was doing that to a friend of mine so I sent the broker an "urgent email" knowing he would open it.  When he did, the audio recording said "Hey everyone, I am watching porno over here - WOOHOO".  They both had a good laugh and I didn't get fired.

May 21, 2015 06:26 AM
Caroline Gerardo
Licensed in 20 states - Newport Beach, CA
C. G. Barbeau the Loan Lady nmls 324982

My response "He/she is a hardworking person. I don't like to hear bad things about my friends, do you?" usually the speaker looks befuddled then starts again, I repeat myself and excuse myself. Discourage gossip, it breaks down teams. After you discourage them they tend not to come back to you

May 21, 2015 05:49 AM
Spirit Messingham
Tierra Antigua Realty - Tucson, AZ
Third Generation Full-Time Realtor® 520 471-6900

I simply do not engage in the conversation.  I have found if you keep walking while someone it trying to talk to you, they quickly get the idea that you are not stopping, which I dont and keep moving.

May 21, 2015 05:31 AM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Ginger Harper Gotta go, duty calls!

May 21, 2015 02:07 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Ginger -- if it's gossip -- there's no need to be polite --- sorry, I'm not participating in that game.   So what do you know or who told you that?

May 21, 2015 01:31 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

Ron and Alexandra...I love that directness.  I must try..

May 21, 2015 12:50 AM