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Russ Ravary ~ Metro Detroit Realtor call (248) 310-6239
Real Estate One - Commerce, MI
Michigan homes for sale ~

Bad question because they are no longer my friend.  Friends trust and use friends.

Apr 06, 2015 11:18 AM
Jill Murty, Realtor - Orange County, CA
Movoto - Laguna Niguel, CA

There's no point in discussing it.  The decision has been made.  Be polite.  If you act angry, it will validate or at least justify your friend's decision not to hire you.

Just make sure if/when your friend's transaction goes sideways and you're asked to help, that you remind your friend you don't represent them and you cannot intervene or offer advice.  Continue to be polite.

Apr 06, 2015 11:45 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

And Russ Ravary ~ Metro Detroit Realtor call (248) 310-6239 has nailed it! I was like that when I started in this business (and still the same for some friends who act like trustworthy friend and stab in the back!)

Apr 06, 2015 11:53 AM
Cindy Davis
SD Home Source Realty - San Diego, CA

Nothing. It happens all the time. And I learned in my first year of real estate that doing business with friends is very difficult.

Apr 06, 2015 11:15 AM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Jane Kalinowsky Wish them well with the sale of their home. They will definitely remember you though when they ask you to bring all of your buyers to take a look.

Apr 06, 2015 11:17 PM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

Hey, how's it going?

Apr 06, 2015 10:37 PM
Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch! - Spring Hill, FL
Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living

I will say good luck and either change the subject or if they don't, I will tell them that they will have to discuss it with their agent. 

Apr 06, 2015 10:12 PM
Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

You never know why they chose the agent that they did. If it's a listing agent, you can can offer to show it if you get a buyer looking in that area and price range. If friend is a buyer, you  can say " hope you find a good deal, and maybe you have a listing the meets their criteria. If not, you can offer .. hope you find something... give me a call after you get moved in and we can go out and celebrate.... but don't make them feel guilty or uncomfortable for not calling you.

Apr 06, 2015 09:53 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Good luck and then let it go...

Apr 06, 2015 08:26 PM
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

 I can understand the hurt feelings, however if the deal goes south then there's somebody else to blame. You keep your friendship.

Apr 06, 2015 06:43 PM
David Saks
Memphis, TN
Broker / Industry Analyst

Hi ! How you doin' ?

Apr 06, 2015 01:59 PM
John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IN, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

I run into friends all the time using other lenders.  It used to annoy me, now I just tell them it's a shame they're paying a higher rate than they could've ; )

Apr 06, 2015 01:55 PM
Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

Some friend you are!

Apr 06, 2015 01:32 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Congratulations on your home move!

Apr 06, 2015 01:15 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Actually did find out my good friend from high school used someone else, and she never said a word.   I left it alone.  

Apr 06, 2015 12:32 PM
Raoul Loustaunau
EXP REALTY - Phoenix, AZ

happends all the time, i dont mention it they have there reasons and the friendship is more important than the deal; and a lot of time they send me deals . a deal will not kill me if i dont get it .thanks Jane have a great day

Apr 06, 2015 12:27 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

"I see that you are selling your home. Where are you moving? 

I will keep it in mind if I have a buyer looking for a home like yours."

No sour grapes or asking why they didn't call. We probably know anyway.

Apr 06, 2015 11:54 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Jane Kalinowsky I used to get upset a lot and stopped talking to them. However, I realized it's not worth. Though I still stay away from them - specially if they want to learn everything from me and work with someone else!

No free advice!

Apr 06, 2015 11:51 AM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Good luck.

Sep 01, 2018 06:36 AM
Ajay Pandya
e-Merge Real Estate Unlimited - Columbus, OH
Realtor Ajay Pandya

Good Luck!

Apr 03, 2018 10:34 PM
Don Mcbride
Nautical Realty Group - Cape Coral, FL
Buy or Sell Today

I also do nothing about it, however like Jill don't come to me with real estate questions. Ask your realtor.

Apr 07, 2015 06:55 AM
Joké Durojaiye
Redfin - Bothell, WA

Say Hi and wish them well.  From my experience in business, sometimes it's a good thing when your friends pass you buy and use a different professional.  I have come not to expect my friends and family to use my services and it is okay because it doesn't always end well. 

Apr 07, 2015 03:13 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

I like Russ's solution, unfriend them.

Apr 07, 2015 02:54 AM
Chrystal Safari Roy
Real Estate Realty LLC - Charlotte, NC - Charlotte, NC
Luxury Property Specialist

Begin with 'Congratulations!' then follow with, I had no idea you were thinking of listing your home.  How did you select your agent?

Then learn to ask everytime anyone asks about the market, 'Who do you know who's thinking of buying or selling?'



Apr 07, 2015 01:38 AM
Brenda J. Andrew
Professional Realtor in Conroe/Willis, TX

I would say Jill Murty said it well enough.  

Apr 07, 2015 01:23 AM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Let's go to the looks like you feel lucky rolling the dice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Apr 07, 2015 12:29 AM