Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

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By 'finally' I imagine it's been quite a few showings/negotiations already.  I first say to myself "are you #$%& kidding me?" and then I'd say to the buyer "surely, when would you like to see it?"

Mar 26, 2015 06:19 AM
Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

I have had this happen a couple of times and it's just buyers' remorse. In one case, it ended up in a cancellation of the first contract but every other time, it has ended up confirming for the buyers they made the right decision.  If they are truly wavering, best to know while there is time to get out of the contract rather than have those doubts follow the transaction around.  I would show the  new listing, and have a talk with them about how committed they are to the contract they are presently in, letting them know if they need to get out of it, they need to let me know asap.

Mar 26, 2015 02:02 AM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I too have had this happen. The buyer may not understand the whole process and want a backup plan. A little talk is in order to explain the realities of being in a contract. So bottom line is I wouldn't show them another house as it is wasting their time and mine.

Mar 26, 2015 10:14 AM
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
The most important home I sell is YOURS!

You still represent them, right?  Here in Texas, they would have an option period so they could get out of the first deal.  If you don't show it, I don't see how you are successfully representing your client.

Mar 26, 2015 05:25 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


I would make an appointment and show it.  It may be they have doubts, and this showing may solidify their choice or they may realize that the home that they have an accepted offer is not for them.

When we bought our home in LA,(representing ourselves) we had an accepted offer on an architectural home in the one of the canyons in Brentwood.  We countered with a small item that was important to us, and the owner agent felt that he could resolve that.  

Saturday, we looked at the LA times, and there was a home for less in a better neighborhood  with more land and a pool, that needed some tender loving care and some cosmetic work.  It was a ranch and we jumped on it, and negotiated it and had it in escrow on Monday.  If I had an agent who did not want to show the home, I would have fired him or her on the spot.  A

Mar 26, 2015 04:04 AM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

If the home has the amenities, price point, etc... of what they have been searching for, I would have to say "when would you like to see it?"  It will either further cement the deal they already have or begin a round of terminating offer/presenting new offer/negotiating.  It may be a headache but it will negate future "what ifs"...

Mar 31, 2015 06:20 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I would show it as a back-up I would ensure that I pointed out everything the house they're under contract on has to keep that foremost in their mind Michael Jacobs ...

Mar 31, 2015 04:54 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Fred Cope thank you for your very thoughtful response.  You have presented a solution that is honest and professional.   That's our job.   We explain.  We teach.  We share options.   The ultimate decision will be in the hands of the buyers and the sellers --- we are not principals in the transaction.  

Have a nice evening.

Mar 30, 2015 10:31 AM
Fred Cope
Reliant Realty in Nashville, TN - Nashville, TN
Looking For Homes With A Smile

I will do my job.  That means, my responsibility is to them, and that responsibility requires me to act in their best interest.  I will point out the risk and consequences, inclusive of possibly losing their earnest money, or worse.  If they view the second property and elect to walk from the original contract the day after acceptance, that may not create issues as great as losing their loyalty and business to another REALTOR®.  We will have had a real heart to heart, but in the final analysis, it is their call and consequences.  I will not suggest deception, such has some trumped up inspection issue, but would encourage them to permit me to be forthright with the listing agent, and ask if they are prepared to forfiet the earnest money.  Hopefully, that will not be the case.  [All the time, I'm praying, "Lord help these sellers get a higher & better offer, please."  I had the reverse happen when my wife and I made our first offer on a property.  We wound up with a much better deal on a house she loved all along.  "All things work together for good for those who love the Lord."

Not all deals will work out, but we can always pray that they do.


Mar 30, 2015 10:23 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

If they can get out of the contract that they are in - because of the home inspection or condo doc review - I would take them. If they are truly under contract, I might take them anyway to help them work through the buyer remorse - I would rather be in control of the situation to the extent that I can rather than to have them flippping out on their own.

Mar 29, 2015 10:41 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

my answer that you read was not for this post....AR is acting up again!!!  nasty little thing that it is...

for this question, the answer is:  I'd say we'll see it so you can have a backup if something happens with this offer....but we must do one at a time, unless you have deep pockets....

Mar 28, 2015 04:32 AM
Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

I remind them that we are under contract (if all is signed off and delivered) and that we have a 10-day inspection period. If they still want to see it, we will go and we can get out of the other contract. My buyers aren't frivolous, so if it's the perfect property, then I'm all for showing it to them.

Mar 28, 2015 01:54 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

I've had this happen a couple of times but it's been quite some time. I would show the property but also have a discussion with them about what they are thinking and feeling. Haven't had anyone change their minds

Mar 27, 2015 09:55 AM
Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

I hate it when this happens, but it has. I would certainly show them the house. 

Mar 26, 2015 06:51 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Michael, Just had this happen recently.  We went to the other home, they loved it.  We exercised their opt out per the existing contract and quickly negotiated them into contract on house 2.  They own it now, and they love it.

In the old days, we did turn off Internet searches for our buyers as soon as they were under contract.  Now, well buyers continue to look on their own even if we do that, so many places with the info that we can't stop it from happening even if it made sense to stop it.

Mar 26, 2015 01:55 AM
Cindy Davis
SD Home Source Realty - San Diego, CA

I just chuckled when I saw this because it happens. I would ask why they want to see it. What doubts do they have about the property in escrow?  Ultimately however, I would show it to them. We can't stop buyers from looking even though they in escrow!  Many buyers use this as a way to be 'absolustely sure' or assauage any doubts about the property they chose. In Califoria, buyers have a lengthy inspection period.  

Mar 26, 2015 01:42 AM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Ofcourse I show them listings even if they have a signed agreement of sale. I tell them they may lose the deposit or whatever the case may be.

Mar 26, 2015 01:30 AM
Loreena and Michael Yeo
3:16 team REALTY ~ Locally-owned Prosper TX Real Estate Co. - Prosper, TX
Real Estate Agents

Here in Texas, we have what we call an Option Period. The unrestricted right to terminate on the contract.

So naturally, it is okay to do so and I will do anything to help my clients feel comfortable with that decision.

Apr 08, 2015 07:16 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

I would say no, you are already buying a home.

Apr 04, 2015 03:06 AM
Russ Ravary ~ Metro Detroit Realtor call (248) 310-6239
Real Estate One - Commerce, MI
Michigan homes for sale ~ yesmyrealtor@gmail.com

It is not worth seeing as they already have a signed contract and they will just want to bail on the other one if they like it.  So why tease themselves

Apr 01, 2015 11:03 AM
Linda Cooley
RE/Max Metro - Saint Petersburg, FL

I'd want to know why they want to view it...gently remind them they are now under contract and must perform based on that contract.  But I wouldn't refuse to make arrangements...you never know if their inspection will go well.

Mar 28, 2015 09:29 AM
Richard Robibero, e-Pro, ABR, SRS
Panorama R.E. Limited - Toronto, ON
Selling Your Home as if it were My Own!

I know many other Realtors in my area like to say that financing and home inspection conditions are "outs". Before I put the offer together I talk about this with my Buyers and let them know that these conditions are there for the reasons stated. I also explain that in many cases if the deal doesn't go through because of conditions you will get your deposit back but the odd time the seller will want proof before handing over the deposit. I know they're not supposed to do this but some sellers may. In which case we'll end up in front of a judge who again, may want to know why we're backing out and if he "smells" that it's not condition related, you may lose a deposit. These cases actually happen.

So I tell them that once the offer is accepted you'll be tempted to look at other listings. "Don't do it because it will drive you nuts". I then tell them jokingly that we can put a condition that says if a better house comes on the market we can back out. We usually all laugh about it and then the papers are signed.



Mar 27, 2015 10:45 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Urgh....do they want to buy two ?  Explain contractual obligation....

Mar 27, 2015 09:13 PM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

What time do you want to see it? 

Mar 27, 2015 09:30 AM
Dianne Goode
Raleigh Cary Realty - Raleigh, NC

I call this a "Confirmation Tour."   The buyer just wants to be reassured that he made the right choice.   It rarely results in a change of heart -- but if it does, we deal with it.

Mar 27, 2015 09:06 AM
Youree Lundy
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty - Orlando, FL
Your Realtor For Life

I happily show the home. I would rather deal with it up front than have them always wonder if they picked the wrong house.  I tell my clients that as they write that big check each month they should be able to look up in the process and say "yes, it is worth it" and finish the check check with ease.  No one wants to pay for something that they are less than pleased with.

Mar 27, 2015 08:57 AM
Demarco & Marisa
Remax Kings Realty - Riverside, CA
"The Choice is Clear!"

I would show them that home and use it to better solidify the fact that they've got the best deal in the neighborhood. ~Marisa

Mar 27, 2015 08:09 AM
Sussie Sutton
David Tracy Real Estate - Houston, TX
David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers

I would show the house; it may turn out to be a better deal for them. I would advise that they still have time to rescind the accepted contract and suggest they really think hard about it. They should write down the pros and cons of each listing and then make their decision .... but quickly!

Mar 27, 2015 03:40 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Michael, it happened to me last weekend, I did show them the home but they remained with the first one so yes, I would show it.

Mar 26, 2015 11:17 PM
Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

It's part of the business. I usually show them. Usually it's a waste of everyone's time. Some buyers think there is a better deal around every corner.

Mar 26, 2015 09:50 PM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

 Michael Jacobs - this happens once in a while!

I try to tell them in a funny way - giving an example of their own relationships:

You are already 'engaged' and now want to date another girl. What if your future spouse would come to know about it?

They laugh it out and many cases, they let it go - unless there are compelling reasons for them to see that new listing.

Mar 26, 2015 01:12 PM
Mike Schneider
10 YRS with Active Rain ! - Lake in the Hills, IL

I'm willing to bet, those buyers had to see everything on the market ....never satisfied for they think theyre missing a better deal...of course i show it to them..

never a dull moment in our industry ! 

Mar 26, 2015 04:31 AM
Spirit Messingham
Tierra Antigua Realty - Tucson, AZ
Third Generation Full-Time Realtor® 520 471-6900

I still show them and continute to show them until once we are past the BISNR (Buyers Inspection Period).  If nothing else, it gives them a piece of mind that they found "the right house", and if not, we can cancel and make an offer.   This comes up a lot with Short Sales.   Once the seller accepts, usually takes months before we get notificaiton of banks acceptance (IF they accept) and the buyer may continue to look, and with the short sale addendum may cancel at any time in writing.   For many buyers, while they are waiting they continue to look at other homes for sale.  Ironically, I have seen many short sales come back on the market as the buyer(s) cancelled and THEN the bank came back with the approval at that price, good intel for the next buyers.  Good question.

Mar 26, 2015 03:51 AM
Michele Connors
The Overton Group, LLC Pitt & Carteret County - Greenville, NC
Your Eastern North Carolina Realtor

Lets go ! In NC we have a due diligence period so we can walk from our offer up to 5pm that due day for what ever reason we want. It doesnt happen much but I did almost have a buyer walk because during our inspections the next door neighbor let out his two large dogs who continued to bark the whole time we were there....we had not been aware of any dogs up to that point.


Mar 26, 2015 02:55 AM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

"Give me two times you are available to see this house."

Most of this time this simply assures them they have an AWESOME deal in the works. Don't go goofy and lose them both.

Mar 26, 2015 02:47 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

We will show it. Afterall, we are working on their behalf and want them to be happy with their choice!

Mar 26, 2015 02:39 AM
Eric Kodner
Madeline Island Realty - La Pointe, WI
CRS, Madeline Island Realty, LaPointe, WI 54850 -

I'd probably read them the language in the "Default" section of the Wisconsin Residential Offer to Purchase form.

Mar 26, 2015 12:57 AM